Got to Agree With You, (You Know Who You Are When You Read This)

A friend of mine recently added a post that really got me going. To sum it up, she is being accused of cheating because she is friends with her ex-boyfriend. I am not going to get all into that, because you can go find her post if it's that important to you. www.smacksonsaturn.blogspot.com. Anyway, I just wanted to make the comment (like I could ever make just one) that it is totally unfair how guys and girls who hang out are automatically assumed to be more than friends. This especially causes a problem when one or both of them are involved in a relationship, and even more when they used to date each other. No matter the circumstance, allow me to state that it is entirely possible for a male and female to be friends, even flirt, without it going any farther.

Before I get myself into trouble, I'd better make it clear that I am not only talking about the situation at hand, so the people involved had better not hold anything against me, because its their fault if they think I am talking about them. I may or not be...This situation happens a lot, to a lot of people, and I have several examples flowing through my head at this very moment.

While I was in high school, I was evidently dating a lot of guys that I hadn't realized I was seeing. Amazing what you learn about yourself when you allow your ears to hear a bit of gossip. It's great. And it happens to nearly everyone. People evidently have nothing better to do with their time than nose in other people's business. I have adopted philosophy that I don't care what people do. If it isn't affecting me directly, I just don't give a fuck. Even if I completely disagree with it, even if I think they are being totally hypocritical, I normally try not to say much. No one is going to please everyone all the time. I know I've done things that pissed people off. I can guarantee you I felt bad about it, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't do it again. I know that sounds horrible, but sometimes, no matter what choice you make, it's going to hurt someone that you would rather not hurt. Life isn't perfect. Everyone has to deal with that fact. Yes, it completely sucks. But there isn't much you can do about it.

So anyway, it seems to me that over the years I have run across several people who don't think that a boy and girl can be just friends. It also seems to me that many, not all, but many, of those people are the ones who themselves have a hard time being just friends with someone of the opposite gender. Just because you end up messing around with most of your male friends doesn't mean other girls do, and it certainly doesn't put you in the position to criticize. I know I'm getting an evil look as I type this so let me add for the person so rudely reading over my shoulder that, as previously mentioned, I don't care what you do. It don't hurt me none. Just don't hate others for it just 'cuz it ain't you.